Here’s a list of things that don’t serve me anymore and that I will be saying “nah” to this year:

1. Going off diet. Life is long. Perfection doesn’t really yield progress most of the time. I’m keeping the big goal in mind while also living a normal, very human life.
2. One way relationships. Hard pass here. We make time for what we love. If you can’t find the time or affection for me, I’m not going to row that boat in a circle anymore. It doesn’t really get either of us anywhere. If your on the other end of the line, I’m all in. Otherwise, best wishes, mate.
3. Feeling insecure about who I am. Fun fact about getting older- you waste less time trying to be everything to everyone. I’m not saying general insecurity doesn’t creep in. It does. But I have limited time and energy and I am just not willing to accommodate anyone else’s expectations for what my life should look like anymore.
4. Hateful politics. No, really. I’m not doing the fear-mongering, scarcity rhetoric that is designed to divide us. I’m on to that game. I’m switching to commonalities, shared goals and values, and problem solving. Don’t come at me with your hate anymore. I don’t have room for it. I am smarter and braver than that. Aren’t we all?
5. Watering myself down. This speaks to authenticity. I am who I am. I am kind, loving, giving, caring, passionate, resilient and powerful. I’d love for you to be in my circle. But if you don’t love who I am, keep moving. None of us need to be bland just to fit in.
6. Parenting competitions. Sometimes I make Pinterest inspired crafts for my kid’s school thing. Sometimes I swing by the grocery store. Neither of these are a reflection of my love and affection for my child, nor do they represent how successful/happy/well-adjusted I am. I am a total work in progress but I am generally proud of who I am and I support you in who you are. Fair enough, right?
7. Perfection. Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. No. This doesn’t exist and it is not my standard of living.
8. Negative self talk. Dang, this is a hard one. I’ve decided to talk to myself the way I would talk to my seven-year-old. If it isn’t loving, supportive, or inspiring, I need to try again until the message is as worthy as I am.
9. Projecting Fear. There are a thousand things that could go wrong. I am only interested in what is actually happening right here, right now. Most of the things I’ve stressfully meditated on have never happened. I’m redirecting my energy toward overcoming everyday adversity. The rest is saved for future dreaming.
10. Scarcity. We get messages every day about how there isn’t enough. Not enough money, not enough time, we aren’t personally enough somehow. So, no. Not going there. My eyes are trained for gratitude, giving, and beauty. There is so much abundance. I feel less afraid, less scattered and way more powerful this way.

I’m curious to know what you aren’t giving in to this year, or what you feel will make you stronger. Let me know, and also believe that I am right there with you on all your goals.

Give ‘Em Hell