It Gets Better

A year ago, I was a mess. Life was a mess. Everything was just too hard. I wasn’t sure I was going to make it. Today, I wake up to this: When it’s dark, hang in there. Keep moving forward. Find faith in lighter days even when it seems impossible. Life gets better. Give ‘Em…

A Note to My Son: Get Out

FINAL NOTICE OF EVICTION April 17, 2018 Dear Tenant, Pursuant to the Laws of Nature and Sanity, you are hereby given an eviction notice and notice to vacate the premises. You have occupied the property owned by your loving mother, her physical body, in excess of nine months without remuneration of any kind. On the…

Mental Health, Beds and Balance

I took a much needed day off today. After spending Saturday night in early labor until 5:00am and then Sunday night at the hospital, it was time for a rest. Here’s a few things I learned in my brief downtime. I am an intensely committed person. I am an “all in” kind of gal. This…

How to Talk to Someone You Disagree With

I am a professional mediator and collaborative family law attorney. Basically, I help divorcing couples communicate better so they can reach the best resolutions for their families. I help them stay out of court and stay in control of their lives. It is a pretty neat gig. My career and education have focused on communication…

Found Tonight

Our children are leading the charge for gun reform in our nation. Before you write me off on that, please listen. What if I can be right and that doesn’t make you wrong? What if we both have our truths and our fears and our values and holding them close does not actually threaten one…

Tom

Tom and I are flying back from Seattle today. Thanks to a generous and helpful friend, Tom was able to sidekick with me while I appeared in the Moth GrandSlam event (more on that later). Another great friend transported us around the city and handed over her condo for us to catch some much needed…

It’s Going to be Epic

I came home and collapsed on my bed, the sensation is like a pool of energy draining into the mattress as if I spilled gallons of water on its surface. I can feel it seeping out of me, everything going limp as my muscles let the mattress take over supporting for my weight. I have…

What Is Love?

I have experienced a lot of different kinds of love today, the day of shared sentiments and gestures of affection. For me, love takes on many forms. Here is what I know love to be at this stage in my life. Love is: Sitting with yourself at 4:00am not understanding why you can’t sleep but…

Carry On!

I had my three month follow up visit with the oncologist the other day. I have to say that sitting in the cancer center waiting room while seven months pregnant was a… memorable experience? I’ve learned since then that many women are treated with chemo while pregnant. I think this is amazing. While I am…

Oh, Walter

There are a lot of great dogs in the world. Big dogs… Little dogs… Happy dogs… Good dogs… And then there is our dog… . . . . . . . . . . . . . God love you, Walter, who is mostly none of the above. *All dogs pictured above attended the same…

(Wo)man in the Mirror

I hate to admit this, but I’ve been struggling with depression lately. It is something that snuck up on me and surprised me when I was pregnant with Elle, and fortunately I was able to successfully manage it with medication when I was carrying Sophie. I recently learned depression alongside pregnancy can intensify with each…

A Love Letter

I don’t claim to know many things for sure. Life is too subjective for me to reserve judgment or claim an absolute “knowing” about anything, really. But I am confident in this: I believe, without hesitation, that we are more similar than we are different. I see this in the lessons my friends have taught…