Day 1

I want to share a bit about my adventure in Maui since I received so much help in making this dream come true. Last week, I wasn’t even sure I was going to come. Then I thought about all the helping hands that made this possible, and it was clear backing out wasn’t an option….

This Is Me

Oh hey there. Here I am again, facing something big and scary and new. This time, you helped me get here. Let me tell you about it. I’m going surfing in Maui with other cancer survivors. Before you think to yourself, “That’s not scary, what is she droning on about?” try to see it my…

Good Enough

Oh, so today is one of those days. One of those cry-in-your-office-with-the-door closed, where-is-my-wine, how-will-I-make-it-to-bedtime days. Apparently, being without my husband for long enough turns me into the walking wounded. It’s silly and a little embarrassing, but we all have these moments, yes? My mom has been here helping with the kids, along with Tom’s…

Hurt Someone

I think I hurt someone. I think I made her feel small, or maybe unfairly treated. I think I hurt someone. I think I might have forgotten to say “thank you” or remind her how much she meant to me. I think I hurt someone. I think I forgot in my own well of hurt…

Medicated Kid

We just had a parent-teacher conference and I didn’t cry. That is a huge accomplishment. Let me explain. My oldest, Elle, has pretty severe ADHD. This isn’t a surprise to me because I had undiagnosed ADHD until I hit my second year of law school. In the 80’s, if you didn’t pay attention you got…

I Wasn’t Expecting This

Today I told my story of being raped by a man I knew in college. Today I laid my soul bare to share the story of a moment in my life that has plagued me with feelings of unworthiness, uncleanliness, and of being unlovable. Today I spoke truth. Today was scary. Today was vulnerable. Today…

The Slow Paradigm Shift of Sexual Assault

Do I still have to tell this story? Actually, I’ve never really told anyone except my husband. It’s the story of how I woke up to a man having sex with me when I was in college. But it’s not just my story, it’s the story of millions of women every year who are sexually…

You Did What?

Everyone knows I’m busy. I run a law firm, I write, I try to care for my children and pay attention to my husband. I have a lot of irons in the fire and sometimes I get burned. So why on earth would I take on something else? Passion. Need. Responsibility. I’ve recently decided to…

The Arena

Brene’ Brown has this concept of “the arena.” She famously quotes Theodore Roosevelt in her research when he said this: It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man…

I Could Have Missed This

I could have missed this. Sophie and I laid outside next to the fire as the sun dipped behind the mountains and the stars started to peek out. She regaled me with stories about her friends, and places she’s like to visit, and Pluto. It’s a cold moon, she told me, and nothing lives there….